I love it when companies survey their current and potential users. As a user, I feel reassured that their future directions will likely increase in value and convenience to me. …

My life has been a blur of acceleration: graduating middle school early, AP classes in high school, a dual degree program in college etc. I graduated with my masters at 23, more credentialed than most people my age but more lost than most people wirth my credentials. Living in the…

I never found that one partner or best friend who could meet my every need. Every time I came close was heartbreaking. …

When discussing challenges that affect the ingroup too (eg. distractions, overwhelm, lack of clarity, or being put on the spot,) bringing up identity can frame them as personal rather than situational issues and lead people to insist that we change ourselves rather than working together to change the situation. Focusing…

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When discussing externally caused challenges that affect neurotypicals too (eg. distractions, overwhelm, lack of clarity, or being put on the spot,) bringing up neurodiversity can frame them as personal rather than situational issues and lead people to insist that we change ourselves rather than working together to change the situation…

Have you ever met most of the requirements on a job description but still felt unprepared for the job? Maybe you feel that way at your current job. It might be a confidence issue as the dominant narrative suggests, but it could also be an insightful intuition about the limits…

I used to feel like a failure at being authentic. I’ve buckled under the pressure to express myself plenty of times, racking my brain for words that weren’t there. Looking back, those moments revealed gaps and paradoxes in my understanding that couldn’t have been resolved on the spot. …