Figuring Out What You Really Think Takes Patience

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I used to feel like a failure at being authentic. I’ve buckled under the pressure to express myself plenty of times, racking my brain for words that weren’t there. Looking back, those moments revealed gaps and paradoxes in my understanding that couldn’t have been resolved on the spot. Instead of embarrassed, I now feel excited when I encounter these prompts for introspection and exploration.

When the scripts we’ve internalized fail us, the online and offline world offer us an ample catalog of sequels. Though others’ words can help us understand ourselves, only we can sense how well these understandings fit our true feelings. Our vocabularies will always fall short of the nuance of our experience. Accepting this ambiguity has taught me to see self-discovery as a lifelong journey and fight the urge to accelerate it.

When we’re tongue tied, we can rest assured that we’re thinking for ourselves. The more we doubt our thoughts and feelings, the more we open ourselves to learning. This learning can build or stifle our agency depending on whether we let our thoughts and feelings marinate or passively consume others’ perception of our experiences, perspectives, and dreams.

Call to action: What thoughts and feelings do you feel called to let marinate?



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