PinnedEnigmas Next Door (aka Tara Raj)5 Tips For Crafting Engaging and Inclusive Icebreaker ExperiencesSimilar icebreakers can be lubricating or draining depending on the situation and implementation. As someone who finds a new buddy or two…5 min read·Jun 28, 2023----
PinnedEnigmas Next Door (aka Tara Raj)The Forgotten Value of the Unaccelerated, Explorative PathMy life has been a blur of acceleration: graduating middle school early, AP classes in high school, a dual degree program in college etc…4 min read·Dec 8, 2020----
Enigmas Next Door (aka Tara Raj)Sharing Language Templates Unlocks the Menu of Interpersonal ExperienceLanguage templates were a common theme across 3 conversations I had this week. I shared or received (verbal / body) language for getting…2 min read·Jan 21, 2024----
Enigmas Next Door (aka Tara Raj)Wendy SyndromePeople talk about Peter Pan syndrome but not Wendy syndrome.2 min read·Nov 3, 2023----
Enigmas Next Door (aka Tara Raj)Making Journaling AuDHD FriendlyLast year, I did an end of year reflection with a friend group. It was very convergent eg. asking us to select a couple values and a couple…2 min read·Sep 16, 2023----
Enigmas Next Door (aka Tara Raj)Normalizing SuicidalityOnce upon a time, there was a naive woman named Tara. She had internalized toxic ideas about suicidality from her Midwestern American…2 min read·Sep 14, 2023----
Enigmas Next Door (aka Tara Raj)Be Superficial and Transactional if You Want But Do it Without Imposing Unrealistic Conversational…I went to my first Chicago tech networking event this week after spending two months in San Francisco and it was a breath of fresh air! I’m…2 min read·Jul 13, 2023----
Enigmas Next Door (aka Tara Raj)If a Company Wants a Detailed Proposal for Free, Run!While I appreciate it when founders ask what I’d do for their startup rather than extrapolating based on my past work, I noticed that it…2 min read·Jun 28, 2023----
Enigmas Next Door (aka Tara Raj)Geeks Accomplish More with Human Interaction: What the Tech Industry Can Learn from GamingIt’s no secret that side projects give us an edge as coders, but sometimes staring at a screen alone debugging for hours on end is the last…3 min read·Aug 18, 2022----
Enigmas Next Door (aka Tara Raj)Stop Telling Misfits to Dream of CodependencyI never found that one partner or best friend who could meet my every need. Every time I came close was heartbreaking. I gave person after…2 min read·Jul 18, 2022----